Sharing a picture of yourself takes seconds. You can even add a cute filter and before a minute has passed, loads of people who you may or may not know have viewed your selfie.
The social media platforms made just for sharing photos are getting bigger and bigger. Instagram has over 1 billion active users and there are 20,000 images shared on Snapchat every second!
Lots of people share photos of themselves regularly – like holiday snaps, silly selfies, or group shots with friends. Some people might think that sharing more revealing photos, like naked or semi naked (nude) pics happens all the time too. But that’s actually not the case – research shows it’s not something that most young people do. Although not everyone’s doing it, you might be thinking about sending a naked selfie, either:
- To a boyfriend or girlfriend
- As a way to flirt with someone you like
- To make your friends laugh
- Or because you feel pressured to
Whatever the reason, there are always risks involved, particularly if you’re not doing it because you want to. There’s always a chance that an image could be shared further, which makes it important to say no if you don’t feel comfortable.
If you have already shared something you’re worried about, it’s never too late to get help. Check out our advice on ‘What if I’ve already sent a nude image?’ below.
3 ways to say ‘no’
Saying ‘no’ is not always easy, especially if it’s to someone you really care about. There are a few different ways that you can say ‘no’ – choose whichever way you’re most comfortable with. Here are some suggestions for what you could say in different situations:
Someone you’re in a relationship with : Let them know you’re not comfortable, if they respect and value you, they’ll understand.
Someone you know : Keep it light – Zipit app has helped lots of young people to say no in a funny way.
There are other ways of showing your boyfriend or girlfriend that you care. Do you feel under pressure to send one? If someone says you need to do it to prove your commitment, they’re wrong. Ask – am I doing this for me, or for them? Your body is yours, and you choose what you do with it. It’s never ok and is always abusive for someone to put you under pressure to send a nude image.
It doesn’t happen all the time. But when images are stored on devices, there’s a chance that other people could end up seeing the images unintentionally.
Someone might tell you that they will share the image with others if you don’t do something they want – like sharing more images or videos. Often, they don’t share the images, even when they’ve threatened to. If this is something that’s happened to you, don’t panic and report it to CEOP.
No one should ever make you feel that you owe them a nude picture. Even if you’re comfortable with sexual chat, or you’ve posed in sexy pictures. It doesn’t mean that you should feel comfortable getting naked, or that you’ve ‘led someone on’. Never do anything that you’re uncomfortable with.
What if I’ve already sent a nude image?
Often, the person you sent the image to won’t want to share it any further. If even the thought of someone having your nude image makes you feel uncomfortable, have an honest conversation with them and ask them to delete it.
If the picture has been posted online, and whoever posted it won’t delete the image – the social networking site should take it down straight away. Social networks don’t allow naked images of those under 18. Read all about how to report here.